Patience, Self-Control, Faith, Peace, Self-disciplene
Patience & Self-Control the best formula to create Peace
Patience (or forbearing) is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on negative annoyance/anger; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can have before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Antonyms include hastiness and impetuousness
Self-control, an aspect of inhibitory control, is the ability to control one's emotions and behavior in the face of temptations and impulses. As an executive function, self-control is a cognitive process that is necessary for regulating one's behavior in order to achieve goals.A related concept in psychology is emotional self-regulation. Self-control is like a muscle. In the short term, overuse of self-control will lead to depletion. However, in the long term, the use of self-control can strengthen and improve over time.
Peace occurs between heterogeneous social groups and is characterized by a lack of conflict and freedom from fear of violence. Commonly understood as the absence of hostility, peace often involves compromise, and therefore is initiated with thoughtful listening and communication to enhance and create mutual understanding.Peace can be defined in a positive direction and in a negative sense. Positively, peace is a state of tranquility and stillness; however, in a negative sense, peace is the absence of war or violence.
Patience, Self-Control, Peace & Happiness
Easier said than done right? To have Patience & Self-Control
Some people have lots of patience, they have self-control naturally, it's a great virtue to have, other people like myself that are naturally more anxious, have to develop these qualities. I say it's much easier said than done, because it's part of change from the old self to the new self that I talked about on the forgiveness page.
One thing I can say is that it creates peace and good relationship with God and others, of course I want to have more patience, and to be in control of my actions and emotions. I am sure you feel the same way. It saves us from unnecessary drama, fights, arguments, anxiety, and unpleasant situations. Do not be hard on yourself, if you don't have it you can with self-examination, recognition, desire to change, and God's help change that behavior. We cannot change something that we are not aware of it. The first step is to recognize that we lack in Patience, and self-control, 2nd step is to accept that we are responsible for our own actions and not others, 3rd we must be willing to change, 4th must be Humble, 5th We must pray about it and ask God to renew our hearts and minds, and purify our souls, and to help us be better, 6th We must allow him to work on us. It will not be easy, why? that’s part of who we are, the good news is that it can be done, and it will be done in Jesus name, Amen.
No more excuses for our behavior, No more Blaming others!!!
No one wants to be criticized, but is part of growing, we must humble ourselves in order to be disciplined and accept criticism, even if it doesn’t feel good at the time, but later when we start to see the changes in us it will feel good to be able to avoid unnecessary pain. How do we know if we've lack Patience? Well imagine you’ve a goal but something or someone is taking longer than expected to take care of it, 5mins pass by and nothing, one month, 6months, one year and nothing, how do you act? do you act frustrated and leave, do you raise your voice, or do you go elsewhere? either one of these answers shows that we lack patience, because we want to rush, we get anxious we get so frustrated with people and we react based on the heated moment, we forget how far along things came, we feel like giving up and walk away, Of course it’s understandable that we wants things to work in certain pace, but we still want to have a positive attitude. That’s the self-control part; We lack self-control because we act based on emotions, we can't wait for the outcome any longer than we expected, we say things or do things without thinking, making things even worse than they were. After we spill the milk we feel disappointed at ourselves for allowing ourselves to give in to emotions again, and sometimes it causes lots of pain and other issues, but we are humans we all have great qualities, and some flaws, the most import thing is to be willing to work on them, and to better ourselves.
What does Bible say about Patience? Romans 8:25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience. Romans 12:12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Basically the bible is telling us stop wait, take a deep breat and dont be anxious, when time comes we will get it, we shouldn't just give up, just be patience, it is not easy sometimes, but the reward is bigger than regreting later.
What about Self-Control? Proverbs 25:28 A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. 2 Peter 1:5-7 For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. 1 Corinthians 9:27 But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified. 2 Timothy 1:7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
Proverbs 16:32 Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. It's nice to have self-control, we will be able to act based on a well trained mind, and not on emotions, emotions only lead us to unpleasant situations, specially us women we are emotional by nature, and with the way our body works, ones a month we are even more emotional, it's better to have peace and to think before we act, than to lash out and regret it later, we hurt ourselves and the people around us.