Too much Pride & Resentment Ruins relationships

God is Love & he hates too much pride, resentment is a fruit of the wicked, either one will ruin our relationships, it won't allow our faith to grow, it makes us take people for granted.

What's Pride? I think there is a difference between self esteem, which is a healthy thing, & pride, which is a sense of superiority to others. God wants us to have a positive self image, but not because there is something in us that makes us superior to others, but because we're human beings, and are noble because God made us all in His Image and Likeness. Beyond this, we need to find a sense of self worth in the message of the Gospel and the value God placed upon us, in being willing to send His own Son from heaven to intercede on our behalf, even to the point of laying down His life and suffering the most painful and shameful death imaginable to redeem us, pay our debt of sin ,and secure our eternal well-being. You know the value of something by the price paid for it. God paid the highest price in the shed blood of His Beloved Son. Now this establishes us with a sense of great self worth; but the Communion banishes pride, because when we share the bread and the cup, we are declaring that the price paid to redeem us was also the price paid to redeem our brother, our sister, and all who share in the cup. This means they are equal in value to God, and we must therefore love them as we love ourselves. Love after all, is really having a proper estimation of the value of the object upon which we set out love. Every person, you and I, are immensely valuable to God.

Resentment is a Weapon in our lives

What is resentment? bitterness, indignation, irritation, pique, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, discontentment, discontent, resentfulness, bad feelings, hard feelings, ill will, acrimony, rancor, animosity, jaundice, envy, jealousy.

What causes Resentment? No letting go; Holding on For some individuals, letting go and forgiving an offense is a difficult thing to do, typically, these are people who operate with strict rules for themselves and others. They tend to exhibit a form of rigidity & perfectionism.  Consequently, they become punitive toward others who violate their rules and standards.  Unfortunately, there is little “wiggle room” for mistakes. They may take great offense at minor offenses. The offender is in detention and may experience a coldness from their partner. These individuals struggle with forgiveness“I forgive, but will never forget!”  Over the course of time, resentment builds on both sides of the relationship. The “holding on” person is unforgiving and resentful. The “forever guilty” person thinks they are never good enough and will develop resentment over time.We are all individuals with personalities and characteristics that are different to others and why it makes for an interesting and varied set of people. In addition to this are the values and morales we all have - or don't as is the case. Our attitudes and approaches to life are different too. Some are full of confidence whereas others are reserved. Some are bold and some are apprehensive.
Resentment can result from a variety of situations, involving a perceived wrongdoing from an individual, which are often sparked by expressions of injustice or humiliation. Common sources of resentment include publicly humiliating incidents such as accepting negative treatment without voicing any protest, an object of regular discrimination or prejudice, envy/jealousy, feeling used or taken advantage of by others, and having achievements go unrecognized, while others succeed without working as hard. Resentment can also be generated by dyadic interactions, such as emotional rejection or denial by another person, deliberate embarrassment or belittling by another person, or ignorance, putting down, or scorn by another person.

Consequences of Resentment in our Lives; It establishes physical and emotional space between people.  It is aself-protective measure designed to avoid harm. “I won’t let you hurt me.”  It is also a punitive measure designed to pay back. Resentment creates a gap between people that communication tools can only fix if the resentful party will pick them up. Resentment deprives you of this basic need. Unresolved conflicts result from resentment, The resented partner may want to resolve the problems.  However, if the person with resentment holds on to it, the partner is in a double-bind.  They want to come close to resolve, but are pushed away when they do. Resentment is a negative sentiment that deprives the individual of personal happiness and fulfillment in relationships.  Over time, resentment can skew an individual’s view about relationships in general. Resentment may create walls so insular that some people never allow themselves to experience true intimacy.

How do we Fix it? Admit it and you have taken the first step in finding the cure! Resentment not only harms the intended target, but it hurts you worse, acknowledge the harm done by resentment and you will likely do something about it. We enter relationships to experience a meaningful bond with another, It is a connection that conveys the message “you matter”. Your rigidity and stubbornness is stifling your relationships, If you don’t address the issues, it will deprive you of happiness. Do something about your resentment, don’t let it remain unchecked in your life., Act today!

 "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31,32*).

"Jesus said, Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing..." (Luke 23:34*).

"For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins" (Matthew 6:14,15*). I will repay,' says the Lord. On the contrary: 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good" (Romans 12:14-21*).

If you are already a Christian, you should still ask God to forgive you for being bitter and resentful. Then ask Him to forgive anyone who may have hurt you, and toward whom you are bitter or resentful, even as He forgives you.

Pride; The good & bad

Living in your own World where the only one that matters is you: Being proud makes us intolerant of others- finding ourselves to be close to perfect and finding a lots of fault's with everyone else, we would never be able to negotiate or compromise. We will kill or die for our principals, whether there was any meaning to our principals or not. With pride, We will never honestly examine ourselves and will never know if we could improve ourselves, will not apologize even when told that they've hurt someone,  because will have an excuse for it,  will shut down or blow up,  never see where they fail or do to others, and does not forgive others, pride people are insecure people walking around with a high wall,  closed hearts and fears.   Pride is placing ones needs before the needs of others. It is selfish, self seeking and it is not open to correction or instruction. Pride comes before the fall.If we have too much pride then we could start to brag about it, also we could think that we are better than everyone else.

What the Bible says about Pride: Your heart will become proud and you will forget the LORD your God. Deuteronomy 8:14 .....Proverbs 8:13 "The fear of the LORD is to hate evil; Pride and arrogance and the evil way And the perverted mouth, I hate. “One’s pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor.” (Proverbs 29:23)
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not Proud. 1Corinthians 13:4

If we have too much pride we are actually very vulnerable and scared. The fear behind having too much pride comes with not wanting to appear weak, as a failure, needy, and to make someone feel that they are not needed or important. Some people with too much pride just want to prove to themselves that they can do it all, it doesn't matter how many people they may hurt, or even hurt themselves just to prove a point. Too much pride can destroy any relationship, we will take people for granted, it will blind us from being able to recognize our blessings, who's there for us. If we've too much pride we focus so much on ourselves and our goals that we overlook someone, or somthing that God sent to us. We try so hard to hide our soft spot that we come as cold, and incosiderate to others, we will push people away and make people feel as they don't matter, it's a very selfish way to live our lives. All good relationships come with a give and take and compromise, no one can change our hearts, God can if we allow him to do so, appreciate the people in our lives will bring us happiness.