Keep God the Center of your home & Relationship/s
By Praying Together we invite God into our Homes, lives, Relationships, and it will bring us closer as a couple, and also closer to God. The relationship will be Blessed, stronger, positive, harder to give up, there will be more meaning, forgiveness, understanding, and more love, God created the first couple!
How can we make it happen?
Praise God for each other, ask God for freedom from temptation, go to God word for relationship advice, and pray for one another’s personal problems.
If God gives you a word for your relationship, don’t assume you can just work it in to your relationship without telling the other what God has said. Make sure you share with them what God is doing inside of you!
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31)
Life is not about your accomplishments or acquisitions, your popularity or prestige. It’s about how well you love., the some Love that is giving to Us by God. "We can Learn to Love"
Why are we having problems in our Relationships?
We’re all imperfect, that means that we cannot and will not have a perfect relationship, let's lower our expectations, that's the first problem. We are afraid of getting hurt, because of imperfection, but we crave intimacy, but fear vulnerability. We crave acceptance, but we fear rejection, We still want Love!
Let God take the Lead, how?
We need to trust him for our future in spite of a difficult past, We need to nurture, protect, and build relationships so that God is more glorified in our lives, our actions matter, we matter.
We must love our neighbor as we love ourselves, our difficult relatives, co-workers, what about our partner, allow God to work on our relationships, are You just going to give up and find the next project? that's not how Good intended Relationships to be.
"For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Timothy 1:7 maybe there is something in us that we can change to better our relationship, it can be the way we talk, how we treat our partner, maybe we need to listen more, be more cordial, understanding, caring, uplifting, supportive of our partner, submissive, and compassionate. God himself will show it to us if we pray about it, and be willing to change our attitude.
If we try to change our partners we will only create tension in our relationships, and actually discourage him or her from changing, accepting
them for who they are, that is the reason why we fell in Love in the first place.
We don't want to pressure, fixe, or judge our partner, That feels demeaning, causes pain and distance. If we are guilty of that we want to work on that and ask for forgiveness, and ask God to change our mentality, actions, and words, we want to uplift them, and Love them. Romans 14:19 Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. 1Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Couples should read the Bible together and discover what God wants to teach them.
How to have Peace in a relationship?
If We focus on being responsible to bring
ourselves to the God, and to learn from Jesus teachings, making him the in the Guide of our relationships then We can’t lose!
Forgive When We’ve been hurt by our spouse/partner extend forgiveness. Don’t hold onto resentments, they’ll eat away at your insides and your relationship too., whenever we are wrong apologize, it creates peace & Harmony, it builds trust.
Listen without giving advice or reacting emotionally. Try to understand life from his/her perspective, active listener is slow in tongue.
Don’t analyze your spouse’s behavior, feelings, or motives, we are not God we can not read minds, Talk about your feelings, making “I statements” and not “You statements.” they'll appreciate that a lot.
Work to Improve your own Weaknesses they're not failures
People with strong character that I know are aware of their faults and work to improve themselves each day, Accept this as an opportunity for personal growth, not to criticize ourselves, We also don't want to criticize our partners for their weakness, lets be supportive.I admire you, I adore you for the person that you are; how wonderful is that? we will make them feel so good as a person.
Speak the language of Love: Find
out what makes them happy and do those things, maybe hugs, flowers, cards, massage, a thank you, help them with a task, etc. show them appreciation.
Express Interest in What’s Important to your Spouse/partner
We need to improve our attitude, Smile more, laugh together, communicate, build each other confidence. Put God first and he will make our relationships stronger..